Five Important Values

Here are my most important five (or six) values as Suma asked.

Personal Integrity
It matters a lot to me to say what I really mean, never try to pretend being something I am not or saying something I do not really feel, or doing something I am not convinced of or that I do not believe in, well you get the picture. It is very imporant for me to feel that kind of integrity in the people I deal with, it totally distorts their image in my eyes when I do not find this one.

Empathy
Being able to understand and share people's feelings, both the happy and the sad ones.

Looking for the silver lining
It's not just text taken from a self-help book. I do believe in this one very much. One has to look for the silver lining hidden in every problem. The problem has been placed in your way or a reason. You need to search for it, learn it and grasp it. Experiences are what help us grow and develop, even the most bitter one. So just try to look at the brighter side of whatever problem comes your way (even if you can't see it then, be sure that there will come the time when you will realize it).

Acceptance
Accepting the people and loving them just the way they are, also accepting and loving oneself, accepting one's life, with all its ups and down and being thankful for both (or trying at least).


Trustfullness
I simply cannot do without that one. I can't operate when I feel I am not getting a full 100% trust. Also it matters a lot to me to feel that I can trust the people in my life.

Independance
That one used to be one of the most important values to me, I grew up to find myelf a strong independent kid. There was a time when I couldn't stand the idea that I can't go somewhere just because nobody can take me there. I preferred to do everything that I had to do myself, to make sure I was a fully operating unit on my own. This has got toned down like a thousnd times now. Some years back I learned it is okay to take it easy, lay back sometimes and just accept having things done, I guess I got to learn to be better at sharing and trusting, which was such a positive change for me. But I still value the independence thing, when it does not go to the annoying extreme. I just miss the days when I could just go out and stop a cab myself.. aah C'est la vie..